I don't have a problem with obsession. I think it makes me more creative. Doing everything possible to impress someone is exciting. It's like I'm walking in a hallway that is not all the color taupe.
If there is truly a seductive quality to fixation it's that it makes everything more interesting. Day to day life comes in brief flashes of euphoria and desolation. And nothing in the hallway is taupe; the colors are dazzling, called 'muse' and 'manic.' Maybe some people find it terrifying or unbalanced. I think I'd rather sometimes be terrified than always be bored. The payoff can be huge; a high risk gamble that can give you everything or take it all away.